Wednesday, November 3, 2010

November is national adoption awareness month! Here's why we love kids!

Monday when my husband was home enjoying his day off, I took the opportunity to get out and buy some clothes.  I'm at that point of needing regular clothes again, but I'm not back to my pre-pregnancy size 4 yet.  I always hate to buy much in this in between size, but I needed something, so off to Chico's I went with baby in tow.  I love Chico's.  Their sizing alone endears them to me.  I'm not an 8 or a 10, I'm a 1.  Don't you just love it?  Anyway, as the store clerk was oohing and aahing over Baby Calvin she asked whether he was my first one.  I don't know why she would ask this other than just making coversation because I've been plucking out gray hairs for a few years now.  When I told her no, that he was our sixth child she looked dutifully shocked.  Then she asked if we had planned on having so many children and for heaven's sake, WHY!  I gave her my usual reply that our children are a blessing to us and that we enjoy them immensely.  Just for fun I added at this point that not only had we planned to have each and every one, but that we had adopted our fourth child and would love to adopt again.  The poor girl was speechless then so I made my purchases and left her alone with her thoughts.

The kids welcoming Baby Calvin home from the hospital.

I wanted to begin my posts on adoption this year with a few of the reasons why we welcome children into our home.  Adoption is about children, after all.

1.  God says to have them.  Did you know that of the 613 commandments found in the Law of Moses, the first is to "be fruitful and increase in number" (Genesis 1:28)?  I value everything God's Word says, but also want to acknowledge the emphasis that the first command deserves. 

2.  The older we get, the more my husband and I realize what a waste much of what we invest ourselves in really is, in the greater scheme of things.  In other words, we try to have an eternal perspective on what we choose to invest our time and resources in.   I love buying a new car.  There's a real buzz that comes from that, but 2 or 3 years later, it isn't new anymore.  I love peace and quiet and being alone, but then I remember that God said it isn't good for man to be alone.  Kids just seem to make it more difficult to have time for studying my Bible, reading other Christian living books, making time for worship, and having the money to help support ministries of the church.  That may be true, but God says that He delights not in sacrifice or offerings, but in a contrite heart and in obedience to Him. 

Our hobbies are not eternal.  The time we waste watching television, we can never get back.  Only relationships will transcend this world.  Our relationship with God, our family, our church family, our neighbors.  Even my relationship with the guy who carries out my groceries for me is more important than the car I drive, the book I'm reading, my checkbook balance, or my mood (and yes I have to remind myself of this each and every time I walk out of the store with him because otherwise my inclination toward solitude ruins a perfectly good opportunity to rub elbows with another human being.)

What's my point?  That children have eternal souls and are called a blessing by God.  What better investment of our time and resources could there possibly be?  Parenting is the hardest thing I've ever done.  It's harder than doing calculus or trying to teach anything to Gen X college students.  It's harder than any physical training or even passing a kidney stone (yes, I know this first hand.)  Parenting is unrelenting.  You're never not parenting.  It's non-stop, 24/7, never a day off.  And messing it up is not an option so you're constantly praying for grace and guidance, apologizing for your short-comings, and seeking help from others.  Many times you feel like a complete failure, but you press on through it all, because at the end of the age there will be these living souls that you influenced for the good or the bad and you can never for all eternity go back and undo what you've done or do what you neglected to do with them while on earth.  Sound daunting?  It is, but God seldom asks us to do anything easy that we are already naturally inclined to.

3.  Kids have a great sanctifying effect on us.  The goal for the Christian is to become holy, we call this sanctification.  We are supposed to embrace those things that help us become more sanctified and shun those things which tempt us to sin.  Our children continually bring our sins before us in a way that we somehow suppress on our own.  Sometimes we fail to see our own sin in a specific area until we see it in our children.  Other times it is our reaction to our children that shows us how far short of God's standard we fall.  Our children drive us to our knees in prayer- for them, for us, for God's wisdom and for His grace.  They force our attention off ourselves and cause us to be more others-centered.  They teach us about the unconditional love God has for His children.  So, if having children helps us to become more like Christ, then why wouldn't we desire that?

4.  Kids are a LOT of FUN!  Our children bring us so much joy!  They provide us with so many opportunities to thank God for blessing us with them.  They bring laughter even in the midst of sorrowful circumstances.  Children truly make the heart glad in a way that nothing else on earth does.


  1. Sorry....I got hung up on "size 4". I'm afraid that I can no longer speak with you ;) Anyways....we pulled the kids and are "officially" homeschooling. I ordered Sonlight Core 1....any tips for starting? Congrats again on baby have such a beautiful family!

  2. So very true! It is so funny that although I am a, QuiverFull, pro-life, children loving, homeschooling mama, I STILL always need reminding of this simple thing that you wrote.... "That may be true, but God says that He delights not in sacrifice or offerings, but in a contrite heart and in obedience to Him. " People have pigeon holed me(or maybe I have pigeon holed myself) and think that because I desire to have more children, that somehow it is easy for me to do it. It is not. It is hard to be a selfish being like myself, and still consistently try to put others first. I do it out of obedience and an outflow of love that GOD has to first put there, not because I am a "natural" at it. God is good, and deserves not only our worship, but our obedience. Amen sista.
    p.s. we were turned down by three agencies for adoption this month alone. I am not sure what I was thinking being that we are in a two bedroom apartment and Jake is in school, but I thought maybe they could see we had a plan :) We had been turned down before because we were not old enough, and another time because we did not make enough money.
    Anyhow, the adoption hope will have to be put on hold for a little while longer again it seems. :( Wish somehow it was a bit easier to help the orphans.

  3. Valerie- you and Jake are doing your part. If and when it's God's will for you to adopt, it will happen. Nothing can thwart the will of God! Tell your sweet kids hi for me. Btw, my girls loved the notes you all sent.


  4. Well written post. You wrote what I have been thinking a lot about recently. My heart has been heavy concerning orphans and our American consumerism and materialism that filtrates everything everywhere. Over at she has also has a great post about would you rather have this or this and shows pictures of different things such as houses or children, diamonds or children, etc. Thank you for writing what has been on my heart lately. Sunday, November 7th is orphan awareness Sunday!

  5. "The time we waste watching television, we can never get back. Only relationships will transcend this world. Our relationship with God, our family, our church family, our neighbors."

    I needed to read this!



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