Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Silly bands as a character training tool?
One of the many reasons we homeschool is to insulate our children from meaningless fads such as this one. Unfortunately our kids pick up on them from their friends at church or in the neighborhood. Silly bands is the latest of these fads. At first I was impressed with how the girls and their friends traded and shared their silly bands with one another, but then two things started happening. 1.) I started finding silly bands or pieces of silly bands all over- in the car, on my living room floor, in the bathroom, everywhere! 2.) The green eyed monster started rearing its ugly head. Measle (7) began accusing Twinkle Toes (9) of stealing her silly bands and vice versa. Silly bands became the subject of many an argument, rather than an object for sharing.
My first instinct was to get rid of all the silly bands, but that wouldn't really solve our problems. Essentially our girls' problems are 1.) irresponsibility and 2.) greed and selfishness. Of course, these problems would continue even in the absence of silly bands.
So... here's what I've come up with:
Each girl gets to choose 5 silly bands from the pile (that were previously hers, not her sister's). Then they have one week to show me they can be responsible with them (ie keep them on their wrists or put away in their room) and not fight over them. If at the end of the week they have proven able to keep up with their silly bands and able to get along with one another and not fighting over their silly bands then I will let them choose 5 more. If they fail the test, I take the five original silly bands back and we wait a week before trying again.
What do you think? I'll let you know how it turns out. Yes, this will be a lot more trouble than just confiscating all their silly bands, but hopefully it will help my girls to learn responsibility and motivate them to work harder at giving one another the benefit of the doubt and to strive toward selflessness rather than selfishness. I care a whole lot more that my girls be loving and responsible than whether or not they have silly bands!
- I'm an on-the-run mom to 6 kids who studied and taught exercise science in a previous life. I love all things running, nutrition, and health-related. I usually run at zero dark thirty in the morning and am often quite hungry before, during, and after my run, but I live a rich, full, blessed life with my children, family, and friends. My faith in God is my anchor, and looking to Him and His promises allows me to live fully even when life circumstances are difficult. While running gives me an appetite, my desire is to hunger and thirst for righteousness more than for physical food.